Saturday, October 20, 2018

FAST Learning

How to learn Fast - Jim Kwik - 2018 - YouTube



Forget: what you already know, start with beginners mind; ignore distractions; limitations
Active: Brain does not learn based on consumption, it learns by creation 
State:  Information + Emotion = long term memory
Teach: Learn to teach to somebody else; this makes you pay attention differently

"With great power comes great responsibility"
<=> "With great responsibility comes great power"
meaning
When we take responsibility for something we have great power to make it better!

The greatest responsibility: controlling how we feel, to be in state of curiosity, excitement.

"When you teach something you get it to learn twice"

book: The Power of TED (The Empowerment Dynamic)


POWER OF TED* (*THE EMPOWERMENT DYNAMIC): 10th Anniversary Edition: David Emerald, Obadinah Heavner, Robert Lanphear: 9780996871808: Amazon.com: Books


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The Power of TED* (*The Empowerment Dynamic) PDF

PNTV: The Power of TED by David Emerald - YouTube (review by Brian Johnson)

The Power of TED by David Emerald - PhilosophersNotes | Optimize

Optimize Interview: The Power of TED* with David Emerald - YouTube

3 vital questions:
  • where is my focus
    • problems or 
    • outcomes
  • how am I relating: to others, to experiences, to myself 
    • more drama or 
    • empowering myself to take creative action
  • what actions am I taking: 
    • reactive, or 
    • generative, creative
Orientation is crucial
  • Victim or 
    • DDT triangle: Dreaded Drama Triangle
      • victim, 
      • prosecutor, (a person,  a condition, a situation)
      • rescuer
    • focus on what we don't want, on problems
    • inner state of anxiety, fear
    • reactive actions (fight, flight, freeze) 
    • this is the default human orientation, survival instinct
  • Creator 
    • TED triangle: The Empowerment Dynamics: 
      • creator, 
      • challenger, 
      • coach 
    • focus on what we want, envisioned outcomes
    • what has a meaning for us
    • creative actions, passion, desire
    • start with baby steps in solving problems toward goals

people play different roles in different situations, both in DDT and TED triangles

important is to shift mindset DDT => TED
  • victim => creator:
    • what I want to create
    • I own my capacity to respond to life experiences, even when feel victimized 
    • questions to ask: 
      • why am I experiencing this
      • what can I learn here
    • the key for shift from victim to creator is to be able to ask and answer questions: 
      • "what do I want?" and
      • "what are the choices here
    • chose to respond to what is happening in life
  • persecutor => challenger
    • challenges to improve and create, instead to react
    • be constructive challengers in our relationships with others
    • always ask yourself questions: 
      • what do I want
      • what is my intention here" before challenging someone
      • what kind of question can I ask
    • conscious constructive challenger has learning, supportive intention (not to show off)
    • not to see others as "problems to fix", instead as "creators in their own right"
  • rescuer => coach
    • professional or trusted friend
    • clarify intended outcomes and current reality
    • rescuers often from good intention reinforce powerlessness of the victim 
    • as a coach, we see the person we support as a creator, capable and resourceful
    • support by inquiry, asking questions:
      • what do you want
      • what is your current reality
      • what are possible options, choices,
        baby steps to move to better outcome

Dynamic Tension
Example of rubber band as an illustration
  • What do I want (goal)
  • What is current reality (starting point)
    • what supports the goal
    • what is in the way, problems to solve
  • Resolving this tension (distance from start to goal) by
    • taking baby steps from current reality to desired goal
    • short term, the smallest thing I can do
    • every step can be 
      • forward, good
      • backward, what can I learn from it?
      • breakthrough, you never know when it may happen if not taking baby steps
    • in every step evaluate
      • what do I want?
      • what did I got?
      • what is next?
Why baby steps rather then giant leaps?
  • High-achievers assumptions that need to
    figure out all the steps to desired future outcome before taking action. 
  • Detailed plans are often voided by unanticipated situations. 
  • Spending all time planning steps rather than taking them. 
  • Baby steps open up paths for breakthroughs or learning along the way 
  • What can I do in next 30 days is much more powerful than what I can do in 5 years
  • Immediate actions inform subsequent actions, 
  • Don't have to have it all figured out before we start
Quote: "It is impossible to invest your soul in a compromise"
There is always a tension between desired outcome and reality.
If we give in to this tension by reducing goal, we react from victim reality, compromising vision.
Part of discipline of being a creator is to allow ourselves to have big visions, that creates a meaning for our lives, and taking baby steps to make it closer to reality.

Fundamentals:

  • being able to identify "where am I" (DDT or TED)
  • and "what I really want" and what are choices
  • no mater the situation we always have choices, and can choose choice

David Emerald womeldorff - YouTube